In the context of Family Constellation as formulated by Bert Hellinger, when the first child is born, they look around for a role model to follow, often the father or the mother. When the second child is born, the role chosen by the first child is already taken, so the second child chooses a different role model, etc. The purpose of choosing a role model is practical: to adopt an already-working Survival Strategy. The role model is copied whole. It happens in only a few moments. The result is you end up with the free space inside of you filled up with some kind of blob or concoction or structure. Then, whenever circumstances arise around you, you respond and interact according to the form of the role you adopted.
The benefit of this is that the survival strategy works. You survive as well as your role model.
The handicap is that, this strategy has a best if used by date which is when you turn eighteen years old.
Occupying your central nothingness with an already used strategy prevents you from being you. Everything you represent as yourself is a lie because it comes from the adopted strategy rather than being invented by you now. As with the majority of Archan initiations, preparations are mandatory.
For example, it is necessary that you can live in First Position, and can Inner Navigate your four feelings and four emotions.
The process of Deconstellation requires a skilled Spaceholder (such as a Possibility Coach) to guide the Client to give the copied Survival Strategy back to the person they copied it from with gratitude, and also with irreversibility, meaning, into another dimension with an energetic protection barrier that can be traversed in only one direction: away.
After Deconstellation there may still be echo behaviors from so many years of following the patterns of the other person’s survival strategy, but once identified as echoes, they can fall away quite easily.
